Lori Prokop has discovered and experienced that having and communicating healthy boundaries can help resolve conflicts, free yourself from fear and improve professional and personal relationships. Lori Prokop says healthy boundaries are an important step to stop attracting annoying people and painful situations you no longer want in your life. Watch this online movie clip and send it to friends who could benefit.

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Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #1

Our experience on earth includes the inevitable passing of loved ones and friends, as well as the ups and downs of career, business, family and life.

Whether you have lost a loved one, a business or a job, I recommend the highly-respected book and movie, “Life After Life.” They have sold 13 million copies.

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #2

Do not feel ashamed of your sadness and grief by trying to contain or hide it. Tears are meant to cleanse and relieve. Cry out your pain. Pray out your grief. Peace will come.

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #3

For your own healing, continue on with a life of activities as before. Or you may consider finally doing what you have wanted to do for years.

If you have lost a loved one, know he or she would want you to carry on. Whether here or there, he or she really wants what is best for you.

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #4

Refrain from saying you have “lost” your loved one. A line of poetry says, “Love cannot lose itself.” You have not lost. Rather, your loved one is living in a new dimension, yet still close to you.

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #5

You can ask loved ones who have passed to continue being with you through your prayers, dreams or signs only the two of you would know. Even friends of mine who have not believed this was possible, once a loved one transitions, tell me it is very real.

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #6

Many who have loved ones who transition want to know, “Where is my loved one?”

Spirituality has been telling us and research is now beginning to prove he or she is well, strong and happy surrounded by love. Realize your loved one is fine — quite fine. (See Life After Life.)

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #7

Realize your Higher Power has made it possible for you and your loved one to meet here on earth.

Think about that. There are over SIX BILLION people on earth. Out of six billion people you could have been with, you and your loved were brought together here.

Find comfort knowing your Higher Power will also make sure you and your loved one will be together “over there.”

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #8

Often the best way to overcome our own sadness and grief is to help someone else feel better. What we give out into the world comes back ten-fold. That includes the love and help we extend to another.

Make a list of all the people you know who are feeling sadness or grief. Next to each name write something nice you can do to brighten his or her day. As you follow through with the list of actions, you will find healing, peace, gratitude and comfort in doing so.

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #9

Humans have incredible resilience. Having faith and connection to a Higher Power of 100% pure light and love can help relief, healing and recovery comes quicker and easier.

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #10

For some people, the greatest sadness and grief relief is found in their spirituality. Some people who have little prior spiritual beliefs seek answer during hardships or loss. Read spiritual books. Listen to spiritual CDs. Watch spiritual DVDs.

I don’t know if this helps you, but I find comfort in the quote, “It is better to have loved and lost than to have not loved at all.”

Yes. You can overcome and dissolve the situation by staying in the upper energy levels of your Life Guidance System. I’ll tell you how. But first I want to share a few quick stories to let you know that you are not alone.

Did you know that Mother Theresa had people who did the same to her? Yes, saintly Mother Theresa had people who wanted her harmed and jailed.

Why?

Because they felt her work highlighted the poverty in Calcutta and gave the area a "bad name." They felt she was doing more harm than good by bringing awareness, resources and love to dying, homeless people. Mother Theresa was threatened with physical harm and jail. As much as she was loved by millions, she was also the target of the harmful intent and hurtful lies of some.

What did Mother Theresa do?

Notice what she didn’t do. She didn’t attack her attackers. Instead, she continued her mission of love and charity concentrating on what she wanted. Eventually as people watched the love come from Mother Theresa and the venom come from her attackers, it was obvious her attackers were foolish, hurtful people living in and acting from the lower energy levels of their Life Guidance System.

In my area we have a Chinese restaurant. A young man named Andy used to work there. He and I developed a friendship. He taught me a bit of Chinese. I helped him with a bit of English.

Christmas was approaching. I asked Andy about the holiday and religious beliefs of his family in China and if they believed in God. He said they did not believe in God. So I asked if they believed in Buddha. He said, "No, no. Buddha no good. Dalai Lama no good. Dalai Lama evil and bad."

Now I just about laughed out loud in amazement at this. But instead, I asked, "Why? Why is the Dalai Lama no good?"

Andy looked puzzled. I could see his mind trying to come up with an answer. He tried to stall with a smile. Again, I asked, "Why is Dalai Lama no good?"

Andy finally said, "Because Chinese government says he no good."

I asked, "Why? Why do they say he no good?"

Andy stared at me. He swallowed hard and struggled with a smile. Finally through his smile, Andy said, "I do not know."

Here is a young Chinese man that for no rational, intelligent or truthful reason had contempt and hate towards the Dalai Lama, winner of the Nobel Peace Prize.

How did it happen? Someone speaking from the lower energy levels told Andy that the Dalai Lama was a bad person, a scammer and evil. Andy picked up on the lower energy levels. He believed it until I asked him specifically why.

So what can you do about people who verbally attack you?

One of the first questions I ask people who are projecting attack is: "What inside of you hurts so bad that you think by hurting me you will feel better?"

Every action people take is about helping themselves feel better, whether it is helping or hurting another.

The action any person takes depends on where they are living in their Life Guidance System. How can you see where a person is living and creating from? Look at their actions.

If they are attacking another or participating in a war on another, they are living and creating from the lowest levels of their Life Guidance System such as fear, anger and revenge.

To blame and judge is still a very low energy, but a higher energy level than fear, depression and guilt.

If you find a person attacking another, you know inside the attacker is a very scared, low energy being.

Attacking another may look strong but it is really a very, very weak position and action. For the attacker, it creates 70% of what they DON’T want and only 30% of what they want. (For more details on this get the Free Special Report that contains the Life Guidance System by clicking here.)

Is a person is difficult to be around? Is he hard to have on your team? Is he sabotaging self or others? This type of person is also living in the lower levels of his Life Guidance System, such as guilt, shame and doubt.

Is she a joy to be around? Does she seems to solve problems effortlessly? Is she helping and encouraging others? This type of person is living from the upper levels of their Life Guidance System, such as contentment, positive knowingness and thankfulness.

To the world, represent yourself and live from the upper level emotions of your Life Guidance System.

Look at the rewards of doing this.

When you are living at contentment and ease, you are creating and manifesting 75% of what you DO want in your life and only 25% of what you don’t want. Pretty much everyone can enjoy life at this level.

A great step is to look at the Life Guidance System chart. Decide how good you want life to feel. Decide how much of “what you want” you want in your life. If you are content with 80% of life going your way, then focus on living and being at the energetic level that will manifest such.

What about people who are attacking others? Give them as little attention as possible. But, represent yourself as who you truly are. Attacks by others can make you stronger. The question is “stronger what?”

This is where you have control.

You make the decision what energetic level you will master. Are you going to master “revenge?” It may feel better than fear because it is higher in your Life Guidance System. But it will create 75% of what you DON’T want.

Is this what you want in your life?

Or would you rather invest this time of focus and strengthening to achieve an energetic level of contentment and ease (creating 75% of what you DO want)?

Or positive belief which greats 85% of what you DO want?

Or even gratitude and love which creates 100% of what you DO want?

Pick up the Life Guidance System which is absolutely free in the special report and decide, right now, what you want your life to be.

Another great resource is "Healing is Possible" by Patricia Sherman, Ph.D., LCSW. Her blog is part of the Keyboard Culture Community of Experts.

Blessings of Love and Light
Lori Prokop

So what is a belief?

The definition is very simple. A belief is information or an idea you have learned that you choose to think over and over again.

Here is the shocking fact about beliefs. Simply because people believe certain information does not make the information automatically true or accurate.

The biggest danger in our world is not questioning our beliefs, but the assumption we have all the answers. The danger is not in the possibility of new information but the inclination to run from it. The danger is not in dramatically new ideas about life and our Creator but trying to create a better life with the same old ideas.