I have attended very few workshops over the years and was very reluctant to attend this one. I was talked into it by a friend. After all I never suffered from any kind of abuse. I was wrong. Lori Prokop explained that abuse is any "less than nurturing experience." Using that definition there are probably not too many people who didn't suffer some form of abuse.

Lori Prokop presented her material in a way I could understand and use to improve my life now. How to Heal Abuse provided tools for me to improve my entire life. I am now very glad that I attended. The "Rules of Abuse" and the "Life Guidance System" were incredible.

Thanks for a great workshop.

At work, I have people who are saying things that are not true. They are very mean. I like my job well enough and get paid pretty good money. So I don’t want to leave the job, especially because of these people. I do a good job. But it’s getting really hard to put up with these people saying bad and untruthful things. What can I do? I don’t want to stoop to their level. But it appears that is the only way to stop it.

Dear Sue,

Everyone has times when others attack, blame, shame or guilt. What can be done? Can it be stopped without sinking to their lower energy levels?

Yes. You can overcome and dissolve the situation by staying in the upper energy levels of your Life Guidance System. I’ll tell you how. But first I want to share a few quick stories to let you know that you are not alone.

Did you know that Mother Theresa had people who did the same to her? Yes, saintly Mother Theresa had people who wanted her harmed and jailed.

Why?

Because they felt her work highlighted the poverty in Calcutta and gave the area a "bad name." They felt she was doing more harm than good by bringing awareness, resources and love to dying, homeless people. Mother Theresa was threatened with physical harm and jail. As much as she was loved by millions, she was also the target of the harmful intent and hurtful lies of some.

What did Mother Theresa do?

Notice what she didn’t do. She didn’t attack her attackers. Instead, she continued her mission of love and charity concentrating on what she wanted. Eventually as people watched the love come from Mother Theresa and the venom come from her attackers, it was obvious her attackers were foolish, hurtful people living in and acting from the lower energy levels of their Life Guidance System.

In my area we have a Chinese restaurant. A young man named Andy used to work there. He and I developed a friendship. He taught me a bit of Chinese. I helped him with a bit of English.

Christmas was approaching. I asked Andy about the holiday and religious beliefs of his family in China and if they believed in God. He said they did not believe in God. So I asked if they believed in Buddha. He said, "No, no. Buddha no good. Dalai Lama no good. Dalai Lama evil and bad."

Now I just about laughed out loud in amazement at this. But instead, I asked, "Why? Why is the Dalai Lama no good?"

Andy looked puzzled. I could see his mind trying to come up with an answer. He tried to stall with a smile. Again, I asked, "Why is Dalai Lama no good?"

Andy finally said, "Because Chinese government says he no good."

I asked, "Why? Why do they say he no good?"

Andy stared at me. He swallowed hard and struggled with a smile. Finally through his smile, Andy said, "I do not know."

Here is a young Chinese man that for no rational, intelligent or truthful reason had contempt and hate towards the Dalai Lama, winner of the Nobel Peace Prize.

How did it happen? Someone speaking from the lower energy levels told Andy that the Dalai Lama was a bad person, a scammer and evil. Andy picked up on the lower energy levels. He believed it until I asked him specifically why.

So what can you do about people who verbally attack you?

One of the first questions I ask people who are projecting attack is: "What inside of you hurts so bad that you think by hurting me you will feel better?"

Every action people take is about helping themselves feel better, whether it is helping or hurting another.

The action any person takes depends on where they are living in their Life Guidance System. How can you see where a person is living and creating from? Look at their actions.

If they are attacking another or participating in a war on another, they are living and creating from the lowest levels of their Life Guidance System such as fear, anger and revenge.

To blame and judge is still a very low energy, but a higher energy level than fear, depression and guilt.

If you find a person attacking another, you know inside the attacker is a very scared, low energy being.

Attacking another may look strong but it is really a very, very weak position and action. For the attacker, it creates 70% of what they DON’T want and only 30% of what they want. (For more details on this get the Free Special Report that contains the Life Guidance System by clicking here.)

Is a person is difficult to be around? Is he hard to have on your team? Is he sabotaging self or others? This type of person is also living in the lower levels of his Life Guidance System, such as guilt, shame and doubt.

Is she a joy to be around? Does she seems to solve problems effortlessly? Is she helping and encouraging others? This type of person is living from the upper levels of their Life Guidance System, such as contentment, positive knowingness and thankfulness.

To the world, represent yourself and live from the upper level emotions of your Life Guidance System.

Look at the rewards of doing this.

When you are living at contentment and ease, you are creating and manifesting 75% of what you DO want in your life and only 25% of what you don’t want. Pretty much everyone can enjoy life at this level.

A great step is to look at the Life Guidance System chart. Decide how good you want life to feel. Decide how much of “what you want” you want in your life. If you are content with 80% of life going your way, then focus on living and being at the energetic level that will manifest such.

What about people who are attacking others? Give them as little attention as possible. But, represent yourself as who you truly are. Attacks by others can make you stronger. The question is “stronger what?”

This is where you have control.

You make the decision what energetic level you will master. Are you going to master “revenge?” It may feel better than fear because it is higher in your Life Guidance System. But it will create 75% of what you DON’T want.

Is this what you want in your life?

Or would you rather invest this time of focus and strengthening to achieve an energetic level of contentment and ease (creating 75% of what you DO want)?

Or positive belief which greats 85% of what you DO want?

Or even gratitude and love which creates 100% of what you DO want?

Pick up the Life Guidance System which is absolutely free in the special report and decide, right now, what you want your life to be.

Hi Lori,

I attended your seminar at the Unity Church in Vero Beach this past Sunday. (I was the one with the crying baby). I fell asleep during each of the first two healing sessions you performed. I still managed to memorize the tapping procedure though. I wonder why I fell asleep? I enjoyed and learned much for what I was awake for. I especially enjoyed the slides, facinating. My second question is, you had a chart you were talking from...the one with the heiarchy of emotions. Are we allowed a copy of that? Thank you, Laurie

Dear Laurie,

Yes, you can receive a copy of the chart of emotions free. It is called the Life Guidance System and available at http://www.howtohealabuse.com landing page or on any of the pages. You will see a box (usually on the upper right-hand side of the web page) that says free special report. Subscribe to that and it contains the Life Guidance System.

Also, about falling to sleep. This is a very common way for the subconscious to heal. Your body (or higher being) may have needed to settle your conscious mind. By the amount of pain that was coming up for you, it was likely the subconscious said, "Let's help her heal with less pain and tear-free. She doesn't have to relive the trauma. Let's put her conscious to sleep and let Lori work directly with Laurie's subsconcious."

I believe this was the case, especially since, notice, you were able to retain all that was taught while you were asleep. If it would have been a true, tired sleep, you would have not been aware of your surroundings or taken in the information.

I have free teleseminars coming up. I invite you to join in on them. I will be announcing them through email. I believe you are on the email list. Otherwise, when you go to get the special report (if you haven't already received it) you will be on the email list for notification of the free teleseminars. These will be a continuation of the healing experience we started in Vero Beach at the workshop.

I look forward to your continued posts and communications here on the blog.

This might also help. It is a prayer I wrote which I have called The Miracle Prayer.

The Miracle Prayer

Beingness of 100% Pure Light and Love in heaven
A true reflection of Who I Am

Thy kingdom come
Thy will be done
Inside my heart, mind and being

Thank you for all my days in direction communication with 100% Pure Light and Love

I forgive and release myself for trespasses and judgments against myself.
I forgive and release myself for trespasses and judgments against others.
I forgive and release others for trespasses and judgments against me.

I deeply and completely love and accept all of who I Am.
I make all my choices from 100% Pure Light and Love.
Thank you for delivering me from my dark level thoughts and emotions.
Thank you for leading me to the 100% Pure Light and Love that I Am.

For it is the Beingness of 100% Pure Light and Love that is the Kingdom, the Power and the Glory now and forever.

So it is.

You can forward this prayer to others when you leave the following line in...(c) Copyright. All rights reserved. Lori Prokop, 2006. http://www.lori-prokop.com.

Dear R.J.,

Thank you for your loving comments here on the blog. I really appreciate your insights.

What a wonderful awareness and healing you have come to.

Which city did you attend the workshop in?

Lori