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January 19, 2006

Success: Key to Success is Self Confidence and Overcoming Inferiority Complex

Let me tell you a brief story. By the time you finish reading this quick article, you will see the key to success.

An inferiority complex, feeling not good enough, leads to less than desirable results, even failure.

I asked a doctor the characteristics of an inferiority complex. She said, “Symptoms can be attacking others, speaking negatively, propagating gossip and doing damage to self. A large number of people, who look like they have self confidence, suffer from the inferiority complex.”

The key to success is to overcome the inferiority complex, either your own or someone else’s.

After speaking to a convention of men and women in a large city, I moved from stage to an area of the auditorium near a sign saying, “Lori Prokop Book Signing.”

At the autograph table I was greeted by a large number of people and signed books when a visibly intense man asked, “Excuse me. Lori Prokop, may I speak with you privately about self confidence and dealing with an inferiority complex?”

I answered, “Yes. Can you wait until the crowd has gone?”

With relief, he politely answered, “Yes, Lori Prokop, I would like that very much.”

Once back stage, he began, “I need all the self confidence I can find. I have to achieve the biggest business deal of my life. Lori Prokop, if I have success, it means the world to me. If I fail, I’m done for.”

I proposed he relax. Few situations or deals are so final, although they may feel to be the only key to success. An important step is to know if he did succeed that was fine. If he didn’t succeed, there would be other days and deals. This is the beginning of overcoming an inferiority complex and achieving self confidence.

He continued, “I have a real inferiority complex. I just don’t have the self confidence I want. Here I am forty-five years old. I’ve been plagued by my inferiority complex. Lori Prokop, I listened to your speech tonight about self confidence. I want to know the key to success you, Lori Prokop, would recommend to help me achieve self confidence.”

“There are three steps to take,” I answered.

“First step is to discover why you have these feelings. I have a free report at my web site that reveals the 12 Rules of Abuse, which are beliefs people learned as children that keep them from achieving what they want as adults.

“You must approach the inferiority complex and self confidence problems looking for a cause and removing it. This may require self-analysis or assistance of a counselor or therapist.

“To help you and be of assistance now with your immediate problem, I will give you my own Lori Prokop formula which works for me. Starting today, I want you to repeat this powerful phrase I will give you. Tomorrow, I want you to say it throughout the day. Do you agree?”

He replied, “Yes, Lori Prokop, I agree.”  

I said, “Here is the Lori Prokop Formula.”

“I am free of worry about how to figure things out. God does that for me. Together, as partners, God and I achieve success in everything, whether overcoming obstacles or going straight to the top.”

I continued, “You can substitute words for what God is to you. The main message here is that you are not alone. Your Life Partner is powerful and on your side always.”

Posted by Lori Prokop at 11:13 PM | Questions and Comments (0)

January 18, 2006

End Your Fear of Failure

It is dangerous to have your own fears working against you, especially the fear of failure or success. Either can cause you to freeze and create the situation you fear, even causing failure to thrive.

Everyone is going to fall short or experience failure. The important question is not “did you experience failure?” Rather the important question is “how did you react to the failure?”

Coming up short of a desired outcome can be a great teacher. Much of what people have learned, which has been the key to success, has come from overcoming adversity. Mistakes help us discover how not to do a thing. Success is also a great teacher, showing us how to do a thing.

It is important to see success and failure equal in terms of the lessons both bring.

I was being interviewed as an expert for a book on success. The author asked, “Lori Prokop, how do great leaders handle success?”

I replied, “Great leaders are not as devastated by failure or as elated by successes. They take both in stride knowing they will continue to experience both as they move forward. They are more excited by the insights and knowledge they master as a result of both success and failure.”

Great accomplishments can launch from failure. But if you stop because of failure, you will experience that failure forever.

When you experience failure, and you will, step back and in a non-judgmental manner take a good look at it.

I recommend the words of a great mentor of mine, Ted Nicholas, when he advised me, “Lori Prokop, say these incredibly powerful words, ‘I forgive myself and others for mistakes of the past.’”

I also suggest to you what another great teacher said, “Lori Prokop, you cannot look rationally at the equation or steps which lead to any outcome until you have healed the negative or hurtful emotions attached.”

As you are healing regarding the outcome, ask yourself why this path failed. When you have forgiven yourself and others for mistakes of the past (even if the past is just moments ago), you can look at the situation wiser, more competent and with the sense that failure is only temporary and success is inevitable.

Posted by Lori Prokop at 10:35 PM | Questions and Comments (0)