One Flaw In Women

Women have strengths that amaze men.
They bear hardships and they carry burdens,
but they hold happiness, love and joy.
They smile when they want to scream.
They sing when they want to cry.
They cry when they are happy
and laugh when they are nervous.
They fight for what they believe in.
They stand up to injustice.
They don't take "no" for an answer
when they believe there is a better solution.
They go without so their family can have.
They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.
They love unconditionally.
They cry when their children excel
and cheer when their friends get awards.
They are happy when they hear about
a birth or a wedding.
Their hearts break when a friend dies.
They grieve at the loss of a family member,
yet they are strong when they
think there is no strength left.
They know that a hug and a kiss
can heal a broken heart.
Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors.
They'll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you
to show how much they care about you.
The heart of a woman is what
makes the world keep turning.
They bring joy, hope and love.
They have compassion and ideas.
They give moral support to their
family and friends.
Women have vital things to say
and everything to give.
HOWEVER, IF THERE IS ONE FLAW IN WOMEN,
IT IS THAT THEY FORGET THEIR WORTH.

     Well, you’ve come to the right place. I really do answer the comments and questions here on the blog.

     So post any question you have. I will answer. We can have a healing conversation back and forth.

Blessings of Love and Light.

Lori

So what is a belief?

The definition is very simple. A belief is information or an idea you have learned that you choose to think over and over again.

Here is the shocking fact about beliefs. Simply because people believe certain information does not make the information automatically true or accurate.

The biggest danger in our world is not questioning our beliefs, but the assumption we have all the answers. The danger is not in the possibility of new information but the inclination to run from it. The danger is not in dramatically new ideas about life and our Creator but trying to create a better life with the same old ideas.

Yes. You can overcome and dissolve the situation by staying in the upper energy levels of your Life Guidance System. I’ll tell you how. But first I want to share a few quick stories to let you know that you are not alone.

]]>

Why?

Because they felt her work highlighted the poverty in Calcutta and gave the area a "bad name." They felt she was doing more harm than good by bringing awareness, resources and love to dying, homeless people. Mother Theresa was threatened with physical harm and jail. As much as she was loved by millions, she was also the target of the harmful intent and hurtful lies of some.

What did Mother Theresa do?

Notice what she didn’t do. She didn’t attack her attackers. Instead, she continued her mission of love and charity concentrating on what she wanted. Eventually as people watched the love come from Mother Theresa and the venom come from her attackers, it was obvious her attackers were foolish, hurtful people living in and acting from the lower energy levels of their Life Guidance System.

In my area we have a Chinese restaurant. A young man named Andy used to work there. He and I developed a friendship. He taught me a bit of Chinese. I helped him with a bit of English.

Christmas was approaching. I asked Andy about the holiday and religious beliefs of his family in China and if they believed in God. He said they did not believe in God. So I asked if they believed in Buddha. He said, "No, no. Buddha no good. Dalai Lama no good. Dalai Lama evil and bad."

Now I just about laughed out loud in amazement at this. But instead, I asked, "Why? Why is the Dalai Lama no good?"

Andy looked puzzled. I could see his mind trying to come up with an answer. He tried to stall with a smile. Again, I asked, "Why is Dalai Lama no good?"

Andy finally said, "Because Chinese government says he no good."

I asked, "Why? Why do they say he no good?"

Andy stared at me. He swallowed hard and struggled with a smile. Finally through his smile, Andy said, "I do not know."

Here is a young Chinese man that for no rational, intelligent or truthful reason had contempt and hate towards the Dalai Lama, winner of the Nobel Peace Prize.

How did it happen? Someone speaking from the lower energy levels told Andy that the Dalai Lama was a bad person, a scammer and evil. Andy picked up on the lower energy levels. He believed it until I asked him specifically why.

So what can you do about people who verbally attack you?

One of the first questions I ask people who are projecting attack is: "What inside of you hurts so bad that you think by hurting me you will feel better?"

Every action people take is about helping themselves feel better, whether it is helping or hurting another.

The action any person takes depends on where they are living in their Life Guidance System. How can you see where a person is living and creating from? Look at their actions.

If they are attacking another or participating in a war on another, they are living and creating from the lowest levels of their Life Guidance System such as fear, anger and revenge.

To blame and judge is still a very low energy, but a higher energy level than fear, depression and guilt.

If you find a person attacking another, you know inside the attacker is a very scared, low energy being.

Attacking another may look strong but it is really a very, very weak position and action. For the attacker, it creates 70% of what they DON’T want and only 30% of what they want. (For more details on this get the Free Special Report that contains the Life Guidance System by clicking here.)

Is a person is difficult to be around? Is he hard to have on your team? Is he sabotaging self or others? This type of person is also living in the lower levels of his Life Guidance System, such as guilt, shame and doubt.

Is she a joy to be around? Does she seems to solve problems effortlessly? Is she helping and encouraging others? This type of person is living from the upper levels of their Life Guidance System, such as contentment, positive knowingness and thankfulness.

To the world, represent yourself and live from the upper level emotions of your Life Guidance System.

Look at the rewards of doing this.

When you are living at contentment and ease, you are creating and manifesting 75% of what you DO want in your life and only 25% of what you don’t want. Pretty much everyone can enjoy life at this level.

A great step is to look at the Life Guidance System chart. Decide how good you want life to feel. Decide how much of “what you want” you want in your life. If you are content with 80% of life going your way, then focus on living and being at the energetic level that will manifest such.

What about people who are attacking others? Give them as little attention as possible. But, represent yourself as who you truly are. Attacks by others can make you stronger. The question is “stronger what?”

This is where you have control.

You make the decision what energetic level you will master. Are you going to master “revenge?” It may feel better than fear because it is higher in your Life Guidance System. But it will create 75% of what you DON’T want.

Is this what you want in your life?

Or would you rather invest this time of focus and strengthening to achieve an energetic level of contentment and ease (creating 75% of what you DO want)?

Or positive belief which greats 85% of what you DO want?

Or even gratitude and love which creates 100% of what you DO want?

Pick up the Life Guidance System which is absolutely free in the special report and decide, right now, what you want your life to be. ]]> 2006-08-03T07:39:29Z 2006-02-22T13:59:05Z tag:www.howtohealabuse.com,2006:/blog//2.21 2006-02-22T13:59:05Z

I spent time in the Midwest where an old livestock farmer said to me, “Lori Prokop, I’ve learned my greatest life lesson from Hereford cows.”

I thought that was a bit unusual. After all, I’ve spoken to many great people who have shared many incredible life lessons. What could we learn from cows?

Well, I was shocked and grateful.

On cattle ranches, the freezing rain, bitter winds and extreme temperatures of winter storms can wipe out entire herds. Flying ice can even cut into flesh.

Facing this dangerous enemy, most cattle turn their backs and slowly drift downwind until they find another obstacle which stops them. Be it a river, fence or something, they pile up against the obstacle and die in large numbers.

But Herefords intuitively stand shoulder-to-shoulder facing the icy storms with their heads down against the bitter blasts.

The farmer told me, “Well, Lori Prokop, you almost always find the Herefords alive and well. It is the greatest lesson from the open range. Just face life’s storms.”

When a person stands up to a challenge or fear that challenge or fear tends to fold and give way. People with courageous persistence win.

Eleanor Roosevelt said, “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.”

Do not attempt to ignore what you fear and go drifting with the wind. Every person must decide over and over whether to deal with fearful situations or to run away.

Most fears are unfounded and empty. A successful businessman in his 60’s calculated that only about 8 percent of what he feared had happened. He looked back on his life saying that 92 percent of what he feared never came to be.

Of the 8 percent of fears that did occur, he said, “Lori Prokop, I just stood up to them with persistence. It was my persistence that overcame them. All fears are controllable.”

Here are three strategies to overcome fear and achieve happiness and peace of mind.

Lori Prokop Happiness and Peace of Mind Strategy #1

Be a person of persistent faith. Most importantly, say morning, noon and night, “I will not be motivated or dominated by fear or anxiety any more. I remove fear and anxiety from my mind. I now decide my fear and anxiety will be brought under control and eliminated. I am a person of persistence and faith.”

In addition to this statement, you will need to choose matching thoughts and actions. This statement will program your mind to remove and reject fear-based thoughts.

Lori Prokop Happiness and Peace of Mind Strategy #2

Work on fears one at a time. With a pen and piece of paper, write out all the fears you have. Make as complete and honest a list as possible. Look over your list and determine the fear that disturbs you the most. Decide to resolve that fear alone, first.

Most people’s strength, energy and persistence are powerful enough to resolve one fear at a time. Resolving all fears or multiple fears at one time can be more than a person could energetically handle.

When you overcome one fear and then the next, you will experience an increased sense of accomplishment, confidence and personal power you can use to defeat all the fears on your list.  

Lori Prokop Happiness and Peace of Mind Strategy #3

Increase your faith and persistence power. Faith and persistence can be the result of a long-practiced mental and spiritual process.

Often, those who need faith and persistence the most need it now. They don’t have time for years of spiritual development. To develop faith and persistence quickly and powerfully, I suggest learning and mastering your inner
Life Guidance System.

What is your Life Guidance System?

It is a chart of 21 emotional levels which each person uses, with or without awareness, to create and react to situations in his or her life.

At the bottom of the chart is fear which creates 1% of what you do want and 99% of what you don’t want. In the middle of the chart is anger which creates 30% of what you do want and 70% of what you don’t want.

A little higher is contentment which creates 75% of what you do want and 25% of what you don’t want. At the top of your inner Life Guidance System is love and gratitude which manifests 100% of what you do want and 0% of what you don’t want.

You create your life experiences from your chosen emotional levels. As you choose higher and higher emotions, you will be amazed how much easier, more peaceful and more successful your life becomes.

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #1

Our experience on earth includes the inevitable passing of loved ones and friends, as well as the ups and downs of career, business, family and life.

Whether you have lost a loved one, a business or a job, I recommend the highly-respected book and movie, “Life After Life.” They have sold 13 million copies.

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #2

Do not feel ashamed of your sadness and grief by trying to contain or hide it. Tears are meant to cleanse and relieve. Cry out your pain. Pray out your grief. Peace will come.

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #3

For your own healing, continue on with a life of activities as before. Or you may consider finally doing what you have wanted to do for years.

If you have lost a loved one, know he or she would want you to carry on. Whether here or there, he or she really wants what is best for you.

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #4

Refrain from saying you have “lost” your loved one. A line of poetry says, “Love cannot lose itself.” You have not lost. Rather, your loved one is living in a new dimension, yet still close to you.

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #5

You can ask loved ones who have passed to continue being with you through your prayers, dreams or signs only the two of you would know. Even friends of mine who have not believed this was possible, once a loved one transitions, tell me it is very real.

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #6

Many who have loved ones who transition want to know, “Where is my loved one?”

Spirituality has been telling us and research is now beginning to prove he or she is well, strong and happy surrounded by love. Realize your loved one is fine — quite fine. (See Life After Life.)

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #7

Realize your Higher Power has made it possible for you and your loved one to meet here on earth.

Think about that. There are over SIX BILLION people on earth. Out of six billion people you could have been with, you and your loved were brought together here.

Find comfort knowing your Higher Power will also make sure you and your loved one will be together “over there.”

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #8

Often the best way to overcome our own sadness and grief is to help someone else feel better. What we give out into the world comes back ten-fold. That includes the love and help we extend to another.

Make a list of all the people you know who are feeling sadness or grief. Next to each name write something nice you can do to brighten his or her day. As you follow through with the list of actions, you will find healing, peace, gratitude and comfort in doing so.

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #9

Humans have incredible resilience. Having faith and connection to a Higher Power of 100% pure light and love can help relief, healing and recovery comes quicker and easier.

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #10

For some people, the greatest sadness and grief relief is found in their spirituality. Some people who have little prior spiritual beliefs seek answer during hardships or loss. Read spiritual books. Listen to spiritual CDs. Watch spiritual DVDs.

I don’t know if this helps you, but I find comfort in the quote, “It is better to have loved and lost than to have not loved at all.”

An inferiority complex, feeling not good enough, leads to less than desirable results, even failure.

I asked a doctor the characteristics of an inferiority complex. She said, “Symptoms can be attacking others, speaking negatively, propagating gossip and doing damage to self. A large number of people, who look like they have self confidence, suffer from the inferiority complex.”

The key to success is to overcome the inferiority complex, either your own or someone else’s.

At the autograph table I was greeted by a large number of people and signed books when a visibly intense man asked, “Excuse me. Lori Prokop, may I speak with you privately about self confidence and dealing with an inferiority complex?”

I answered, “Yes. Can you wait until the crowd has gone?”

With relief, he politely answered, “Yes, Lori Prokop, I would like that very much.”

Once back stage, he began, “I need all the self confidence I can find. I have to achieve the biggest business deal of my life. Lori Prokop, if I have success, it means the world to me. If I fail, I’m done for.”

I proposed he relax. Few situations or deals are so final, although they may feel to be the only key to success. An important step is to know if he did succeed that was fine. If he didn’t succeed, there would be other days and deals. This is the beginning of overcoming an inferiority complex and achieving self confidence.

He continued, “I have a real inferiority complex. I just don’t have the self confidence I want. Here I am forty-five years old. I’ve been plagued by my inferiority complex. Lori Prokop, I listened to your speech tonight about self confidence. I want to know the key to success you, Lori Prokop, would recommend to help me achieve self confidence.”

“There are three steps to take,” I answered.

“First step is to discover why you have these feelings. I have a free report at my web site that reveals the 12 Rules of Abuse, which are beliefs people learned as children that keep them from achieving what they want as adults.

“You must approach the inferiority complex and self confidence problems looking for a cause and removing it. This may require self-analysis or assistance of a counselor or therapist.

“To help you and be of assistance now with your immediate problem, I will give you my own Lori Prokop formula which works for me. Starting today, I want you to repeat this powerful phrase I will give you. Tomorrow, I want you to say it throughout the day. Do you agree?”

He replied, “Yes, Lori Prokop, I agree.”  

I said, “Here is the Lori Prokop Formula.”

“I am free of worry about how to figure things out. God does that for me. Together, as partners, God and I achieve success in everything, whether overcoming obstacles or going straight to the top.”

I continued, “You can substitute words for what God is to you. The main message here is that you are not alone. Your Life Partner is powerful and on your side always.”

Everyone is going to fall short or experience failure. The important question is not “did you experience failure?” Rather the important question is “how did you react to the failure?”

Coming up short of a desired outcome can be a great teacher. Much of what people have learned, which has been the key to success, has come from overcoming adversity. Mistakes help us discover how not to do a thing. Success is also a great teacher, showing us how to do a thing.

I was being interviewed as an expert for a book on success. The author asked, “Lori Prokop, how do great leaders handle success?”

I replied, “Great leaders are not as devastated by failure or as elated by successes. They take both in stride knowing they will continue to experience both as they move forward. They are more excited by the insights and knowledge they master as a result of both success and failure.”

Great accomplishments can launch from failure. But if you stop because of failure, you will experience that failure forever.

When you experience failure, and you will, step back and in a non-judgmental manner take a good look at it.

I recommend the words of a great mentor of mine, Ted Nicholas, when he advised me, “Lori Prokop, say these incredibly powerful words, ‘I forgive myself and others for mistakes of the past.’”

I also suggest to you what another great teacher said, “Lori Prokop, you cannot look rationally at the equation or steps which lead to any outcome until you have healed the negative or hurtful emotions attached.”

As you are healing regarding the outcome, ask yourself why this path failed. When you have forgiven yourself and others for mistakes of the past (even if the past is just moments ago), you can look at the situation wiser, more competent and with the sense that failure is only temporary and success is inevitable.

Some people who feel inferior use an addiction to try to overcome weaknesses, especially in times of increased stress or deep inner conflict. A person’s inner inferiority complex reveals itself in his or her actions such as addiction, drug abuse, alcohol abuse, child abuse, compulsive eating, blame and aggression among others.

No successful person desires a destructive addiction. What people who choose addiction or abuse really want is the power and ability to create better lives.

If you find yourself or others dealing with addiction or abuse, instead of justifying or blaming, ask the following questions:

• Do I really want healing and resolution for this addiction or abuse?

• Am I willing to improve myself to achieve healing?

• Do I realize I can’t control others? The only one I can control is me.

• Am I willing to take the first step for myself and get rid of my addiction, abuse excuses, blame and other destructive habits to achieve peace and happiness?

Alcohol abuse and drug abuse are common crutches today. I have met many people who feel tongue-tied or awkward at social events. They find a few cocktails or beers “give them a lift” turning them from introvert to extrovert.  There are many people who drink to feel better about themselves, even to the point of abuse or addiction.

For an article entitled Lori Prokop Interviews the Experts, one doctor said to me, “It’s sad but true. A seemingly innocent use of alcohol can quickly and easily become an addiction, especially if people perceive they are someway ‘improved’ when they drink.”

Alcohol abuse, drug abuse and any other addiction are serious forms of personal loss. The people, who depend on any exterior addiction or abuse rather than improving their perceived weaknesses and healing their pains, are beaten from the start.

Such a person can find healing. They must get rid of the addiction and abuse, find a healing system which works and resolve their fears and pains.

The power to create what is wanted in life is the answer to all prayers.

How is it that some people, especially those great masters who have walked this earth, have the power to create their desires with simple intentions while others try and try but can’t?

These are the secrets and answers revealed in the How to Heal Abuse workshop.

Hello, my name is Lori Prokop.

Odds say I would never be writing this to you. Why?

My education ended in the 5th grade. After years of abuse, I was an angry, homeless teenager with no direction in life. When I turned my addiction for drugs and alcohol into an insatiable appetite for reading and knowledge, I stumbled upon ancient spiritual secrets so powerful that they turned even my life around.

I now have a happy 15-year marriage to a loving man. We live peacefully in a north woods retreat we call home.

I have found that heaven is within each of us, to the degree we are consciously aware of it. The ultimate life purpose for each of us is complete freedom from what you don’t want in your life which often looks like discord, darkness and despair.

The purpose of How to Heal Abuse is to provide a proven spiritual system to help attain this goal.

I teach these spiritual secrets to others who seek and find themselves drawn to them.

In the Beginning…

At first it was only a handful of very close friends. After I saw the incredible, life-enhancing results that happened for them too, I knew this was more than something that would work just for me.

Then, I started using these secrets coaching business owners and again it worked.

Then, a dear friend of mine was having some real personal problems. Because he was constructing an addition onto our office, he saw first-hand, day-to-day, how my husband and I used these spiritual secrets to create what we wanted and to solve situations we didn’t want. Time and time again he was amazed at the wonderful and quick results.

He asked if we would teach him what we knew.

We agreed.

Within less than a few hours of revealing the secrets and walking him through an exercise, he was able to use his own intuitive and spiritual powers to tap into the best solutions to his painful problems.

Most importantly, step-by-step instructions for solving his problems were revealed directly to him through communications from his Higher Power. This was the first time he had been able to tap into his intuitive powers to communicate directly with his Higher Power and feel assured he was receiving pure light and love directions from this Source.

My friend went from being an angry, frustrated and fearful man to complete relief, in control of his life and his destiny in just one afternoon.

Another friend was going through a divorce. He feared losing his home to creditors. The fear was becoming a reality as he was two weeks away from losing his home.

My husband recommended we walk through the How to Heal Abuse exercises, which we did. Within less than one hour, my friend received loving, clear instructions through his own mind and heart on how to stop the foreclosure.

Following the instructions, within the two week timeline, my friend was able to save his beautiful home. Now, he uses this system to resolve challenges and create what he wants in his life.

Learn For Yourself

In the workshop, you will receive the spiritual system to reconnect and become one with your own inner powers. These are the same inner powers Jesus Christ used, which are still very much alive today inside each person, but often forgotten.

You can use your inner power to answer even your most difficult questions, find direction to your toughest challenges and create what you want in your life.

I’d like to think all people live heavenly existences. But, many, many, many people experience this world as being full of pain, abuse, violence and other problems that people do not want in their lives. Every home and family has been affected by individual and collective pain.

People go to psychologists, psychiatrists and counselors for help. Thanks to these wonderful resources, many lives have been saved, relationships helped and people find ways to cope.

In spite of the help, many people are searching and praying for new, better and more effective methods of dealing and healing from ever-increasing problems.

Our society needs better and more powerful tools to dispel the darkness which seems to surround and to bring in the healing light. People are attracted to the light, often after experiencing their own individual dark moments of the soul.

The purpose of this workshop is for you to leave the darkness of any painful situations and live in the light. By leaving darkness you are no longer subjected to its attracting powers. You will find yourself attracting what you want in your life, instead of more of what you don’t want.

Painful memories are no longer buried in some recess of the mind. They are not hidden in the past. You do not need to live in fear that at some future date the darkness of the past will rear its ugly head.

Instead, the darkness is gone.

The memory of the past will not be gone, but the painful sting will be. The memory will be a learning experience from which we can draw strength and perspective.

Complete System…

By reconnecting with 100% pure love and light, you can experience inner peace and inner strength and the ability to manifest these inner gifts as physical experiences in your outside world. Your life will be filled with what you want. This includes loving relationships, great jobs, rewarding careers, financial success, vibrant health, fulfillment, enlightenment and other positive experiences.

This presentation provides a proven formula for you to discover your life purpose and the exact steps to create the life and success you desire.

You don’t have to have a great job, a perfect life or be in your right livelihoods now to benefit. All you need is the desire to increase your peace, abundance and happiness. Regardless of what has happened in the past, it is never too late to heal and create what you want in your life.

Please check out our Free Resources